How to handle children?

Every parent gets angry at his or her children sometimes. It doesn’t help that there are always the endless pressures of life on each one of us whether it’s the problems of our relationships or the problems of financial matters, the list is never ending. In the middle of that stress, enter our child, who has lost his/her notebook or any other similar tiny problem and we lose our minds on them. Today we are going to talk about some of these issues which every parent has faced at some point in their life which is ''parenting'' obviously.

Parents and kids have the ability to trigger each other as no one else can. Even as adults we are often irrational in relation to our own parents. Similarly, our kids push our buttons precisely because they are our children. Psychologists call this phenomenon “ghosts in the nursery,” by which they mean that our children trigger the intense feelings of our own childhoods, and we often respond by unconsciously re-enacting the past that’s etched like forgotten memories deep in our minds. The fears and rage of childhood are powerful and can overwhelm us even as adults because it gives us incentive to control ourselves, we need to know that parental anger can be harmful to young children.

That is the reason we blame schooling of our kids when it comes to their behavior and want to enroll them in some of the best preschools in India. Schooling plays an important role in a child’s life in shaping its mind and beliefs and teaching him what is right or wrong. Schooling is also blamed because low investment preschool franchise model of business is becoming quite popular these days. Preschools in Faridabad are gaining much more recognition in the country like ''Vidyarpan''- The Digital Preschool located in Faridabad sector 37 which is the first digital play school in India and one of the best preschool in Faridabad has all the equipment’s and systems which a well-developed preschool has. Parents see such schools as mere organization which wants to make as much profits for themselves as possible and let go of the interests of their child and them too.

If your child does not seem afraid of your anger, it’s an indication that he or she has seen too much of it and has developed defenses against it and against you, whether or not they show it and the more often we get angry, the more defended they will be, and therefore less likely to show it, our anger is nothing short of terrifying to our children who have already been engaged with that side of ours since long time now. The most important thing to remember about anger is not to act while you're angry. You'll feel an urgent need to act, to teach your child a lesson. But that's your anger talking. It thinks this is an emergency but it never is, you can teach your child later, and it will be the lesson you actually want to teach. Your child isn't going anywhere. Now we shall talk about some ways to keep our child at bay.

Make things a game- Since small children are constantly making a mess it's easy to feel like your house is always a bin. If you want your child to help you keep things tidy, make simple tasks into a game. Avoid telling your child to do something directly and try to make a story out of it or a game. You may need to help him or get him started. You can also make challenges or chores into races where you compete.

Connecting with your child- When you force kids into something, they tend to rebel and do everything they should not. The term that best defines this behavior is counter will, which is a common trait of stubborn children. Counter will is instinctive and is not restricted to children alone. Try connecting with your child and know his/her problems.

Giving your child options- Kids have a mind of their own and don’t always like being told what to do. If a parent tells their kids to sleep at time and wake up at time the answer will be a ‘‘NO’’. Tell your five-year-old stubborn boy to buy a toy you chose and his doesn’t want that. Give your kids options and not directives. Instead of telling her to go to bed, ask her if she would want to read bedtime story A or B.

Stay Calm- Yelling at a defiant, screaming kid will turn an ordinary conversation between a parent and a child into a shouting match. Your child might take your response as an invitation to a verbal combat. This will only make things worse. It is up to you to steer the conversation to a practical conclusion as you are the adult. Help your child understand the need to do something or behave in a specific manner.